Darkness is surronding you ... a little about the most brutal of elements.

Everyone knows the specific feeling you get once you are getting in love. All your world changes, the way you think changes and all you care about is that one specific person. But most of these emotions vanish after a time and then we are looking for somebody also, creating the patterns and changes and doing all again and again and again. But did you ever tried to ask yourself why this pattern appears in your life? What creates the patterns?

When you first time gets in love as a teen, you start to create the pattern for yourself. Every time you go over a broken heart state creates emotions that are attaching themselves to you. Your mind creates the experience and tries to prevent you from making the same mistake again. For some of you, it would help and you will find a relationship, but most will make another mistake and allow insecurities to show up. Every time you are allowing yourself to feel low vibrational emotions and getting sad or feeling pain (all negative emotions are low vibrations ones - I will write more about vibrations soon) you attract this emotion more and more. It's why it's so hard to end the broken heart state, and why we are afraid of losing who we love. We don't want to go over these emotions again. But with time with start to create doubts in every relationship like "what if she's cheating on me like the previous one?" " What if he is going to leave me, like all of them?". And here is the place where the pattern starts. Your mind is the most powerful tool you will ever have. So once you start worrying and thinking about it - you simply attract it. Your mind doesn't understand what is "worry". It feels like you thinking of something and it's manifesting it. Another heartbreak, other insecurities, another pattern. After several heartbreaks, you go into the state when you start to doubt the existence of love, your worth and yourself. You keep thinking that if you would had been better or did something better they wouldn't leave. They would - because you attracted the pattern. Doesn't matter what would you do. Is there any way to actually remove it? Of course, it is! Once you realise that the pattern exists and when it shows up.. you can simply work on it. The pattern is nothing else like a protection mechanism from your mind. Even if it's sometimes working another way than you think, it's supposed to keep you safe from pain.

But okay... We understand the pattern, we understand what it does and why it appears. So what do we do to find true love?

First of all - to find love, you need to love yourself. If you don't love yourself how do you want to love somebody else? You are at the exact point you wanted to be, you are learning the lessons which you were supposed to learn. But you need to realise that you can't just wait for love to come. It will come, but you need to be ready for it. If you don't love yourself how do you want others to love you? How you wanted others to love you when you are showing them that you doubt your worth. That you don't deserve to be loved? Without loving yourself you can't get love. You can attract romance, yes but it wouldn't be too serious. So the first thing you need to do is find love for yourself deep inside your soul. Speak with yourself, unblock it and feel it. It will take time and repetition, it will bring you over many hard emotions as your mind will try to stop you for your own safety...but you need to do it. Only once you will learn to love yourself, you can work on your self-doubts.