The attachments - how to remove them and why you should do so?

Attachments affect us and the way we see the world. Very often they come from our fears - and that's coming from our shadow self - we already learned about that. And today we will not only learn about our attachments but also the way to remove them.

**What are attachments?**

They are simply things that are holding us in place. They are affecting you as I mentioned and also holding you... like negative bonds, they prevent you from becoming more wise and advanced. They are based on fears. Why?

Because fear is a powerful emotion... and our shadow self rules them. So every time you fear something, it might create an attachment.

Very often they are related to love too - as you know, it's a very strong emotion too.

So often we don't want to accept that our loved one left us, we don't want to heal the pain and we try to attach ourselves to something which makes us feel safe. Safety is one of the most important feelings we need. Yes - we need to feel safe. It's one of the first instincts we learn about. We want to be safe. We want to be ourselves and be safe. We want to be accepted. And because specific situations or behaviors are bringing down the fears - we create a bond with somebody or something who makes us feel safe. Let me explain it in the example.

Your father leaves your family when you are a young child.

As you grow without him, you don't feel safe about any male figure - because he left, it means they will leave too. At this point it's an instinct.. you have problems trusting men, and with time it makes itself worst.

Once you are 20 years old, you meet a male who is loving you and try to overcome your fears - you love him too. You end up in a relationship, but you are becoming attached to him. Your fears are taking over so you become jealous, controlling, and annoying (yes, this sort of behavior can be annoying)... the negative emotions which you feel are coming from your attachments. He made you feel safe and loved - that's why you attach yourself to him and don't want him to leave you... and that's a negative emotion. As I mentioned attachments will cloud the way how we look into the world. You will become more jealous about every single woman around him, or try to see things that aren't there. You might even be jealous of his sister. Isn't that toxic? Ask yourself that.

We can have many attachments - most of them also might come from ego.

Why from ego? These are attachments attached to the feeling of greed, and yes our ego is connected to the greed itself. So yes, you can feel like you are attached to wealth, money, family, love - anything in an unsafe dose can become an attachment.

Now I hope you understand what attachments are and how they are affecting us... but now it's time to talk about how we can remove the attachments.

** How to remove attachments**

You already noticed that attachments are toxic.. not only for you but also for others around you. So now we need to learn how to fix them.

There are a few ways to find out your attachments.

The best way I would suggest would be:

If you would have to run away and never be back in your life - what you would miss the most?

This could point you into some sort of attachment you might have.

Also, think about the things which you need in your life.

Do you truly need them? Do you truly need that many of them? Could you survive without them?

Then talk about this with your shadow self. It also knows what created your attachments and can teach you about them.

Then we reach the most complicated part - how to remove them?

You let them go.

Easier said than done...yes, I am aware of it. You might do rituals for it, you might ask your guides to help you remove them. You can visualize them as some sort of shadow shackles attached to you and remove them... but the most important part is watching your thought. Only when you will notice that you start feeling the fears or behave in some way that feels wrong - try to stop. Ask yourself why you do feel this way. What affects you?

You might be also repeating daily mantras and affirmations to help you... after some time you might notice it becomes easier and easier.

If you want to find a ritual connected to removing attachments :

Prepare some bay leaves (whole leaves)

White candle

An offering bowl or anything where you can put burning leaves

Pen/Marker

Burn a candle.

With a marker write all your attachments on the bay leaves.

Ask your spirit guides to help you with this one.

Once you are finished... Burn them into the bowl.

close the ritual with affirmations to help yourself - you can either find ready ones or use your ones.

Repeat them daily for a month, and every single time you feel you are still behaving the same way.

That sounds like a hell of work, right? And why exactly we should do it? They feel safe. They make us safe after all.

**Why do you have to remove your attachments?**

Well, you should do it - it's easier and safer... another way .. well universe will force you to face them and that's something you might not like.

Very often when we face our life lessons they become very painful and very hard for us to face... so either you can face them on your own, with your own tempo and energy .. or you can be forced.

The faster you will do it - the better.

Let's give you another example.

You are having an attachment for money. You keep wanting more and more; you aren't grateful, and you keep being greedy. That's attachment.

If you don't work about it, you might notice something happening around you - you will probably think it's negativity or a curse, but it can be also your life lesson. You will lose your work. Then apartment.. then you will have no money left. You will only have your car and some clothes. Barely money to have food... and then you will learn how many things you didn't even need. After all, you didn't need to eat 5 times a day - you could it once and very little. You didn't need little gadgets and parties. After a time, you would notice that you accepted your fate...and instead of complaining about it, you accept it. You surrender yourself to the universe and allow it to take care of you. After a time, you will find work...a better place to stay and be back in your own life. But this time instead you becoming greedy you will want to share what you have with others. You learned the hardest way - why shouldn't you help others?

This if a story is true or not isn't important... important it is the meaning behind it. That we shouldn't focus only on ourselves and being attached to everything - but be free like the Fool from the Tarot.